We all live in a world that is fraught with job commitments and fast-paced lifestyles. We all struggle to keep up and keep going with this world that has no time for us to handle stress. It’s just not a part of the “system.” More often than not, it seems the demands won’t give us time to ourselves. You know, just a few minutes to sit (or lay down) and have some peace and quiet. But what if there was a better way to handle stress?
3 Kinds of Stressors
I believe that there are more than three kinds of stressors (people who become stressed over something) out there. But for now, I am going to identify the ones I know best. If you can’t relate to these three kinds of stressors, I would be interested to hear what other kinds of stress symptoms show up in your life!
Stressor #1: This person is melancholy/moody, and has clammed up for some unexplainable reason. He/she often feels like nothing can be done to help them solve whatever problem they’re facing and is about ready to give up.
Stressor #2: This person is tired all the time because he/she cannot get enough sleep at night due to anxiousness they feel towards completing a job and doing it well. They also might complain that they don’t feel good the majority of the time. And lastly, these people are not be able to function well or think properly about anything else besides the one task they just have to get done.
Stressor #3: This person seems like he/she is doing alright… until you talk to them. They are very short fused and are easily offended by the smallest mistakes or delays. They would rather believe that you didn’t exist, paying as little attention as possible to what you have to say, even if it is important.
Stress – A Toxic Word
Unfortunately, it is impossible to name every single problem that could ever arise to stress any one of the three individuals identified above. However, I’ve learned something very powerful and effective for handling stress across the board: We have got to stop hiding our problems behind the word stress! It’s toxic! In fact, I like to compare the stress our bodies undergo with pharmaceutical drugs – they cover the symptoms, but never get to the root of the problem. And just like pharmaceuticals, if stress is used to cover up symptoms (i.e. emotions with real names), we will get sick due to the toxic build up! Yep! Our bodies store emotions just like they do chemical toxins:
- Heart and Small Intestine: hate, cruelty, impatience
- Stomach: worry, anxiety, mistrust
- Lungs and Large Intestine: sadness, depression
- Kidney and Bladder: fear
- Liver and Gallbladder: anger, jealousy, envy
Don’t believe me? Do a Google search, “emotions stored in body organs”, and you’ll find out how these emotions affect the body. Ultimately, what this information means is that when you cover up some problem with the word stress, without pinpointing and saying what it really is, you store up negative emotions and never give them a chance to be released.
Name It! Say it! Release it!
So now we understand we’ve got to name the emotion connected to our problem. This opens up a dictionary of words that can help us articulate why we are feeling and acting the way we are. Typically…
Stressor #1 feels completely overwhelmed, so much so that they don’t even have the ability to identify what makes them feel this way. There’s so much going on!
Stressor #2 feels inadequate and is at a loss as to how to find his/her confidence in themselves when they are trying to handle a very problematic situation.
Stressor #3 usually feels impatient because he/she is under a time crunch and they don’t have any time to deal with other people’s problems.
Sounds lovely, doesn’t it? But let me tell you, once you identify the emotion, and work on letting it go, you will be amazed by how much better you feel.
Pray about it
Who is the best Person to turn to when we are in any sort of difficulty? God, of course! He is the one who gave us the problems to work through in the first place. That is because these emotional patterns point to life lessons. We need to learn them so we can overcome them. It’s no accident you’re where you’re at right now. So instead of mulling over it all by yourself, take it to Him, and lay the problem at His feet, and ask Him for wisdom to learn this lesson.
There is a very good reason why He wants us to take our problems to Him – for our own health! Ha! You didn’t think I was going to bring the H word into this, did you? But in all sincerity, stress (unidentified feelings and emotions) weaken our bodies, period. It can lead to a weak immune system, acne (raises hand), headaches, and so much more. If it is held on for too long, it can even turn into something as bad as a chronic illness or pain. So bring it to Him. Let Him carry your burden.
Talk & Listen
I cannot tell you how many times I have been relieved from my own anxiousness just by talking it out with a family member or a close friend. When we lay everything out on the table, we are given relief.
But maybe you’re fit as a fiddle right now and everything is going well. Take a look around you. Is there anyone who is dealing with a difficulty and looks less than peachy-keen? Offer your ear and take them out to your favorite stomping ground. Listening and empathizing with someone is the most welcoming act of love we can give.
As you can see, handling problems in life is not an easy task. It takes time to sit down in quiet and dig until you discover the core issue that’s bothering you. Prayer requires us to direct our hearts to God but sometimes, we don’t want to admit that we need His help. We can even feel ashamed when we ask someone to take time out of their day to hear our troubles. But don’t ever excuse yourself from addressing a problem that makes your stomach turn somersaults every single day.
Let’s be honest with ourselves and admit that covering up the issue with the words “I’m just stressed,” never fixed anything. It’s like saying we believe we have the strength to carry these burdens alone. There is a better way. I’ve struggled with enough of my own life problems to know all the excuses. But you know what? You and I are worth it!
Can you relate to any of the 3 stressors?
Did you know stress could be such a toxic word?
How did this post help you?
Blessings and peace, Jessica B.
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